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Novice Manual

Updated: Apr 6, 2021

Rude. Disrespectful. Offensive. Illiterate. Do you want to be THAT guy?

I've encountered many novices and even "experienced" slaves in those categories. Only a handful managed to impress and prove themselves worthy enough to gain an attention of a Domme. I can't count how many times I had to repeat Myself - I'm a Dominatrix, not a fetish provider or an escort.

Some of these guys watches videos that's categorise as 'Femdom' in general porn sites. They get turn on by it, send a text with their dicks to do the same exact thing with a Professional Dominatrix. That to Me, sounds like a joke and wrong in so many levels - Especially when you request for us to switch as a submissive, rimming, pussy worship, sex, intimacy or anything that ends with a 'job'.

Want those? There's escorts who are fetish-friendly and I'll be glad to direct you that way - Only if you're respectful. Alternatively, get your wife, girlfriend or fuckbuddy to explore with you - BUT I can't guarantee whether they have the knowledge to keep you safe and alive unless they're in the kink community or at least do their research (NOT fifty shades of grey).

Most importantly, just don't waste Our bandwidth and Our precious time to reply to your nonsense.


I can't emphasise enough on research on what ticks you on (or off). It is alright if you don't know what exactly turns you on because you've yet to explore but it's good to have something in mind rather than nothing. My play page ( shows a glimpse on what are the things that might interest you too.

I don't play with anyone who said they have no limits. You honestly don't know what you want at all and clearly shows you have no respect for your own well-being and it is an indication that I can do whatever I want including caning your dick till it's malfunctioning or even castration because you give consent to it.


I always believe that mutual connection is important when you serve a Domme. Make sure that you're contacting the real one because there's so many impersonators out there. Look through Her websites and social media to see if Her style matches with yours. For example, if you're not into pain - Don't look for sadists obviously.

Everyone have their own preferences on looks. Every Domme have their own style and don't expect everyone to be the same. Also, don't expect a free entertainment. She may be nice but don't push Her tolerance level. You are not the only one who exist in Her life.


Get the correct language when you contact Her. English is one of the most spoken language in the world but of course, some uses German or Arabic. Do not use short forms or horrible spelling that doesn't make any sense.

Not your first language? Use a translator and spell checker. How are you going to communicate in real life if you can't even convey a proper message virtually? Find another Mistress that speaks your language. Do you really want to serve Her? Learn Her language.

Vulgarities and demeaning words should be out of your vocabulary. Calling Her a slut or a bitch just because She didn't meet YOUR expectations? You shouldn't be going out of your house.

Do not call Her unless She gives you the permission. Of course, check her time zone and don't buzz Her phone when She's asleep.


Ensure that you get the right channel to contact Her. Usually through email, website submission form (or etc). On Her social media or Fetlife? I don't think you'll ever get a reply amongst the flood of timewasters in Her inbox and she will think you're one too because you can't read instructions.

DO NOT SEND ANY PICTURES. We don't want to see it. How good looking your face or body doesn't matter. Same goes to your dick too. It's gross. We are not turn on by it. Your manners is.

Last Minutes? Or are you just horny at that point of time?

Do you expect Her to drop whatever she's doing that day, dress up and meet you with all Her toys? You wouldn't like it either if you're not prepared for a presentation but your boss suddenly announce a meeting just before your lunch time when you already had a lunch date planned ahead.

I always plan at least two weeks or even at least a month in advance. It's good to state your availability on your preferred days and time of the day so that She can look into Her schedule and see if it matches with yours. Unless she announce in Her social media that she have an opening slot available.


If She's a Professional Dominatrix, chances are She already have Her own choices of personal playthings. It only shows you just want a 'free play'. Honestly, it sounded like you're knocking Her door like a salesman although She doesn't want to buy anything from you and you keep pushing Her for it.

Even as a personal slave, there's alot of commitments, time and effort to be put in, not just monetary. (If you can't even support yourself, how are you going to support Her?) Chemistry plays a huge part even if you want to be a house maid.

Do you have any skills that you're worth keeping for?